The Dating Games

I know in my last post, I partially explained why I have not dated in my 23 years of life. But now, I feel that I should further explain why I think the "rules of dating" or the "dating game" is so contrived and silly.

First of all, if you like someone and want to see them/talk to them, there should not be an amount of days you have to wait before contacting them. This whole "Oh, wait 3 days before calling" is such BS! Because as adults, life gets busy and what if in 3 days you end up having to do something for work, or you have a presentation, evaluation, or something else life will throw at you and you can't actually pick up the phone to call/text? And then, what happens if you do in fact want to call/text, but you are literally booked up all weekend, so you can't make plans for the upcoming weekend, but you also don't want to call/text to make plans for 2 weekends away.

Second, I know that this is the 21st century and so it is totally appropriate for the girl to make the first move and call or text the guy first. I mean, hell, if you really are interested, usually, I feel, the girl IS the first person to make the move. But I'm sorry, I'm 23 and have not really dated someone. Is it wrong that I want to be pursued? Is it wrong that I want to continue to believe in chivalry? Chivalry is NOT dead, for those of you who think it is. :) I mean, in my head it is not dead.

Now, I'm sure you all are wondering why I am blogging about this a week later, after I've only had 1 date. Well, folks, I was asked on date number 2 on Wednesday. :) I thought I was going to have a work commitment to help out a friend today, so when he asked to go to lunch today, I had to try to reschedule. After discussing our pretty busy schedules, we are meeting for either a quick bite to eat and/or a drink on Tuesday night. (I have to go downtown for a sorority meeting, so it worked out well). Although, I am a little peeved that my plans for today ended up falling through, so in theory we could have had lunch today, I did not want to seem flaky and be "Hey, my plans ended up not happening, so let's go to lunch today." Whatevs. Date 2 is set.

Again, despite the fact that date 2 is set, all these rules and stipulations are so stupid in my opinion. I was reliving all of my past "dates," that is to say, all the times in college that I was set up for a date function, and I realized how much I have grown since college. Yes, I'm still the same awkward but lovable turtle, but after going on a date where I was NOT completely wasted before meeting the guy, I'd say I was pretty cool, calm, and collected for me. We will just have to wait and see how date number 2 goes!